Reflections on a TED Talk delivered by Kathryn Schulz.
My last post of 2011 is going to stray a little from my traditional format, but please stick with me here.
Some say that 2012 will bring about, at the very least, a paradigm shift. I am certain that many of us see that changes have to occur in order for us to live as happily as we are all capable of being. The following TED Talk has unexpectedly prompted me to make my own reflections upon how I hope that things can change in 2012 and beyond.
We all have regrets, and as Schulz points out, it is part of what makes us human. Of course we may all wish to have the foresight and wisdom that would allow us to live in harmony with our every word, action and thought, but to do so would be an inhuman condition.
And like I regret certain words, actions and thoughts in my life that have affected others, I know that others regret those same things toward me. When I think of how I hope to overcome regret in a way to move on with my life, I believe it is through honesty. However much it may hurt me or hurt another, at least after the pain there can be healing. All of this is probably sounding very vague, but I hope that you can apply the hazy outline of what I am trying to say here to your own experiences of regret.
To those who I hold close, and to those who I have never met and everyone in between, I have but one request: Choose honesty and an open heart in the New Year. I am not asking anyone to be perfect, nor am I making a New Year’s Resolution to live without harm. It is difficult for one to learn about the danger of fire without ever feeling its burn. But do not let your regret grow so looming that it consumes your heart and the hearts of those around you. Quench the fiery sting of regret with loving truth. Let your heart guide you with empathy, compassion, and above all, love.
There is a message that started in my ear as a small buzz, but it has grown to a dull roar. I think it will continue to swell until I hear it come from the lips of everyone I know and everyone I don’t. Above all else, I want to be loved and I want to be love. But I don’t know how to do one without the other. I hear this message often, but I fear that many people are saying it for the wrong reasons or using it as an excuse for actions that are not based in love. Maybe I still don’t know what love really truly is or should be, but I know that I am going about it at this moment with as pure of intentions as I am capable of at this part in my journey. I have only reached this point after much reflection on the regrets of my life, and the pain that I have felt at the hands of others.
I know I am not the first to say it, I just want to do my part to echo this message. Maybe I cannot end pain or regret, but I am going to do my part to use honesty and openness to be love now and in the future.